Show Others You Value Them

1. Use people's name. Everyone likes to hear his/her name and to know that you are interested enough to remember it. And spell it correctly. I know people who spell their name: "Scot", "Ric", "Kathee", "Jon". Ask how to spell their name which will help you remember.
2. Acknowledge their presence. Something as simple as: “Good morning. How are you, Mary? I missed you at today’s meeting,” can be a way to show someone you are aware of her existence.
3. Remember small details about them. To them it is not small and is a huge connector.
4. Remember their––and if you are really close and connected the members of their family’s––birthday, anniversary, graduation, or other significant occasion by sending a card, gift, or connecting electronically or by telephone. People are often impressed when someone remembers occasions that are special to them. I remember because I write them down and store in my contact management system. I record this from my phone into my database. Technology makes this easy.
5. Let the person know you are available to help them in some way. Use your expertise to help others (within acceptable boundaries and parameters).
6. Be in the moment when speaking to them. This means listening closely to what is/is not said, as well as absorbing body language when face-to-face. Letting someone know you are truly in the moment when you speak with them can be manifested by small acknowledgements of their personality, work, hobby, etc.
7. Give proper credit. Giving credit where credit is due is important to valuing someone. It also raises your credibility in their eyes.
8. Be fair, regardless of their status or position. Treating someone fairly means enforcing the rules of civility for everyone all the time.
9. Be equitable. Playing favorites because it suits your agenda or circumstance is devaluating to the receiver and to observers. Everyone has importance and deserves respect.